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At crossroads

In our journey in this life, we might reach a stage where we feel discouraged, as though there is a huge wall in front of us blocking us from our progress, all doors seem to be closed and locked. Since Life doesn’t come with a manual or troubleshoot instructions, how do we move forward? Which direction to turn?

My answer… turn inward…. Our all-knowing subconscious mind has all the answers. Then the question arises how do we bring it, into our conscious awareness… My answer…. pause for a few moments…Pay attention to ourselves—our emotions --- our thoughts. Question ourselves, hidden in the answers, is our new path!!!!

Start by asking “at this particular juncture in my life what is my most dominant emotion”? In my experience, it’s mostly FEAR, fear of failing, fear of not making it (let down), fear of losing (feeling threatened), fear of loneliness, fear of abandonment, etc. so we ask questions How? What? Why? You would be surprised by the answers, not only do you have a big map with directions, but a new path of hope as well! All you require now is a bit of flexibility and jest to move forward. We start getting sudden thoughts or ideas, an intense eagerness to do something which was totally ‘Not you’, it can be to call our long-lost acquaintance or search something in Google.... do it, we have our new path. That’s our subconscious mind leading us to solutions and new opportunities. Mind you, more than often this path would be uncomfortable and new to us, don’t stop, move forward. The more we trust our inner voice, we will find whole new pathways opening up for us.

The challenge many faces at this juncture would be our trained habit of logical thinking, we analyze the pros and the cons, we brood over this impulsiveness, and we quickly judge, “What if”. ‘Yes’……but, “pulling us backward, back to the initial problem situation”. What we are doing here we are de-valuing ourselves, our inherent capabilities.

---Another block to our progress would be not taking the learning from our past mistakes and failures… we build castles over failures. Thinking about it and for some strange reason sitting on our failures is more comfortable for us than moving on! A few questions we can ask ourselves here are, “when I decided to do this, what was my intention/ How did I go about doing it, where were the challenges and what was my approach towards them”. Analyze the answers objectively, can use our logical mind here!

Another block that creeps up then would be our phobias (fear again), inner and outer resistance towards change. Take baby steps but move steadily with absolute trust, and overcome the inertia of feelings of uncertainty and doom. It is only with perseverance and courage to change our self-pity or self-hampering thoughts we can break free towards an absolute state of joy and honor! The choice is ours….

I am a Psychotherapist, Cognitive behavioral hypnotherapist, and NLP master coach.

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